Ever wonder how some couples stay happy together for so long? How do they go through the ups and downs of life with their relationship intact?
If you were to ask them, they would likely say making a marriage work takes … well, a lot of work.
In this article, we will discuss eight secrets to bringing harmony to your relationship.
1. Positive Attitude:
Cultivate a positive attitude towards your partner. This attitude will breed trust and honestly. It will also make being with each other more enjoyable and comfortable.
Master your thoughts and do not let negative thoughts dominate you, as this can ruin your relationship.
2. Good Communication:
Effective communication is an essential part of any healthy relationship. No two people are ever the same, both have different approaches to life and sometimes these differences can lead to conflicts.
But smart couples develop the skills to communicate effectively. Healthy conversation can resolve even the biggest of conflicts.
Transparency plays a critical role in a relationship. It doesn’t mean sharing your whole day’s schedule with your partner. It simply means to be honest, and to share your thoughts and feelings with him or her. Transparency creates a sense of security and trust in a partnership.
Having time apart is healthy for a partnership because it keeps the relationship fresh, brings a sense of personal identity, and fosters independence and strength.
Sometimes, space is needed after a fight so both partners can cool down and come back later for a calmer discussion. Other times, “space” is an opportunity to self-reflect.
What to do during your “space” time? Spend time with uplifting friends, enjoying a hobby, or nurturing yourself.
Respect is a crucial determinator of a happy married life. Dr. John Gottman, founder of The Gottman Institute, an organization dedicated to research on marriage, views respect as the foundation for a healthy union.
Respect encompasses the concepts of trust, commitment, fondness, admiration, friendship – which are components of Dr. Gottman’s Sound Relationship House Theory.
Respecting your partner’s decisions, thoughts and influence will increase trust and security in the relationship.
6. Couples Therapy:
Many couples in happy marriages often schedule a therapy session or attend a couples retreat on a regular basis. In North Chicagoland, for example, couples attend a marriage workshop as an annual “checkup” on the health of their marriage.
For couples facing other issues, such as depression or stress, a couples counseling session helps couples resolve conflicts before they become chronic.
Couples leave these “checkups” feeling rejuvenated and hopeful for their future.
7. Small Moments:
Celebrate small success, achievements and occasions. The ritual of recognizing and celebrating a moment, no matter how big or small, should be a vital part of a relationship. Acknowledgement and appreciation create strong bonds and a feeling of togetherness.
Remember to celebrate good times, such as a salary hike, milestones, birthdays and festivals, with your better half.
8. Spend Time Together:
One of the easiest things you can do to improve your relationship is to regularly spend time with your partner. Find activities that are enjoyable to both partners or take turns participating in an activity favored by one partner. Go on errands together. Or, just find a quiet spot in your home and enjoy each other’s company.
Established a habit of doing things together. You will discover you enjoy these “together” activities more than when you do them on your own or with other people.
Restoring Your Relationship
Commit to trying one of these suggestions today. If your relationship is in crisis, you may not see huge leaps in improvements right away. However, you will see that the trajectory of your relationship is moving in a positive direction.